In the ripe old age of my..ahem mid 30's, I got married. It was wonderful to finally commit to someone after years of investigating the market as I call it.
However, shortly after tying the knot and getting back to the grindstone, the most common question amongst friends, family and well, everyone else I know was "so, when are you going to start having children?"
Now first things first, I'm not against having children in the slightest and I admire, respect and adore my gorgeous friends with their gorgeous little and big ones. But when did we crawl back to the 1950's where we had to get married to have children AND we had to have children once we got married? How far we have come, and yet how far away we truly are.
I could go on and on in the blog about that subject, but that's not what I wanted to talk about so I digress.
I started thinking about why I haven't got the bug, the maternal drive, the want to procreate, have beautiful children and watch them grow (right now anyways). And it hit me. I have a child. It's 11yrs old. It screams, keeps me up at night, takes the money from my wallet, smiles at me when it wants something and makes me compromise my livelihood on a daily basis. It's called "My Business".
Now in business years, it's kind of like dog years, so in reality I have a teenager who's about ready to leave home, and create their own path in this world, a phase of which I'm rather excited to witness. And, just like coming home on Sundays, we too will also sit down once a week to discuss the woes and wonders of the world where we'll both learn and educate each other - kind of like Sunday Roast dinner.
I don't pretend to know the pains and the joys of having children, and I dont make light of the pros and cons of either side, but I love MY child, I feed it, shower it with love, spend my life making sure it's happy and in turn, it provides me a wealth of emotion, success and happiness (generally speaking), however at the end of the day, my child is my business.
So, to all of those fabulous young and older women who are creating their own family in whichever way that means to you - I applaud you.
Andrea
Twitter: @acculligan
2 comments:
Cool analogy. And it more than likely will look after you when you are older too.
Not so sure about the unconditional love back with either kid though. A business, like a child, sometimes takes a path a parent doesn't expect at all.
Honey. This BLOG rocks! You are a truly wise soul and have said what so many of us feel!! Well done you xx L
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